Friday, December 5, 2008

Don't worry be happy!

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Dec 5, 12:34 AM EST

Good cheer may spread itself, a study suggests

By MARIA CHENG
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LONDON (AP) -- When you're smiling, the whole world really does smile with you.

A paper being published Friday in a British medical journal concludes that happiness is contagious - and that people pass on their good cheer even to total strangers.

American researchers who tracked more than 4,700 people in Framingham, Mass., as part of a 20-year heart study also found the transferred happiness is good for up to a year.

"Happiness is like a stampede," said Nicholas Christakis, a professor in Harvard University's sociology department and co-author of the study. "Whether you're happy depends not just on your own actions and behaviors and thoughts, but on those of people you don't even know."

While the study is another sign of the power of social networks, it ran through 2003, just before the rise of social networking Web sites like Friendster, MySpace and Facebook. Christakis couldn't say for sure whether the effect works online.

"This type of technology enhances your contact with friends, so it should support the kind of emotional contagion we observed," he said.

Christakis and co-author James Fowler, of the University of California in San Diego, are old hands at studying social networks. They previously found that obesity and smoking habits spread socially as well.

For this study, published in the British journal BMJ, they examined questionnaires that asked people to measure their happiness. They found distinct happy and unhappy clusters significantly bigger than would be expected by chance.

Happy people tended to be at the center of social networks and had many friends who were also happy. Having friends or siblings nearby increased people's chances of being upbeat. Happiness spread outward by three degrees, to the friends of friends of friends.

Happy spouses helped, too, but not as much as happy friends of the same gender. Experts think people, particularly woman, take emotional cues from people who look like them.

Christakis and Fowler estimate that each happy friend boosts your own chances of being happy by 9 percent. Having grumpy friends decreases it by about 7 percent.

But it also turns out misery don't love company: Happiness seemed to spread more consistently than unhappiness. But that doesn't mean you should drop your gloomy friends.

"Every friend increases the probability that you're at the center of a network, which means you are more eligible to get a wave of happiness," Fowler said.

Being happy also brings other benefits, including a protective effect on your immune system so you produce fewer stress hormones, said Andrew Steptoe, a psychology professor at University College London who was not involved with the study.

But you shouldn't assume you can make yourself happy just by making the right friends.

"To say you can manipulate who your friends are to make yourself happier would be going too far," said Stanley Wasserman, an Indiana University statistician who studies social networks.

The study was only conducted in a single community, so it would take more research to confirm its findings. But in a time of economic gloom, it also suggested some heartening news about money and happiness.

According to the research, an extra chunk of money increases your odds of being happy only marginally - notably less than the odds of being happier if you have a happy friend.

"You can save your money," Christakis said. "Being around happy people is better."


Sooooo
Messy says she wants you to be happy!


Thursday, December 4, 2008

A Moo funny

sitting in the doctors office for Mapboy, who has strep by the way, she noticed a poster on the wall, it was a poster explaining what Asthma is and it had a picture of what lungs look like with various Asthma related issues. she pointed to it and said " mommy what's that!" so I told her that that is a picture of what lungs look like, I placed my hands on her chest and told her to breath deep, and when she did I told her that her lungs were like a balloon in her chest and they take in and let out the air when she breaths she sat for a few minutes looking at the poster, then she looked over at me and put her hand on my chest and said "wow mommy you have two weally weally big ones!" ROFL I almost fell off the chair :)

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Ten years old, huh? A decade. Double digits. The big one-O.

Happy birthday Map Boy


now for updat4es

IEP went well

Messy is doing ok academically
she is really struggling in other areas
she does well with other kids socially making friends, something we worried about with her, but her biggest problem is sitting still for more than ten minutes

she will disrupt the class to get up, or yell or just be silly because she can't stand having to sit still when it isn't all about her KWIM?

she also has trouble seeing people in unexpected places. Like seeing mom at school, a classmate at the store, or her autism specialist at school, the specialist sees her one hour a week at home, and one hour a week at school.

her other biggest problem is accepting change in her schedule


speaking of, today is a half day so we are waiting for her bus to drop her off...I hope it went well :(


Today is Mapboy's 10th birthday he is a decade, he is also sick as a dog LOL poor kiddo at his school one of the teachers makes balloon hats for kids on their birthday, he says it's no big deal, but I think secretly he was looking forward to getting the balloon hat :) He wants his own facebook account ...I told him it would be silly for me to give him his own facebook account since he can't use it until he is 14 ROFL do you believe that some of his friends have facebook accounts? middle school is crazy.

He got his computer back in his room, with some new nifty unhackable nanny type software on it :) not sure if I told you all that he used to have it in his room, but he went and hacked the software so he could sneak on the computer in the middle of the night...DH has convinced me that he will not be able to hack this one.

I have a friend Jo who has been living out of state FOREVER and is moving her family back here, it's nice to see her now and again :)

I am going to break out my camera

and break out of this silly depression I've been having

so look for more pictures soon :)

thanks for reading

Friday, November 21, 2008

IEP anxiety?

Is that normal, or am I just a complete loser?

*sigh*

I keep saying to myself "these people have good hearts, these people have Messy in their hearts"

DH is home

I have to got going on typing up IEP stuff for Messy

and some other stuff for the other kids

this is such a busy time of year
I need to get prepped for the IEP meeting, and I need to get prepped for Thanksgiving
I'm thankful to have the IEP meeting :)

So I'll probably be busy for a couple weeks
not that I have been overly active lately LOL

it's always something right?

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

I saw a new bird today

It's been so long since I've seen anything new

this is a bird of prey

have not identified it yet
and thinking a juvie peregrine, but I can't imagine a peregrine living around here no cliffs, no tall buildings *shrug*
so I am searching for what it might be

I actually picked up my camera and took a picture of it before it flew away :) but it had the wide angle lens so it's hard to see
going to pick up the boy he is so much better at Id-ing the birds than I am so I'm bringing the bad image I took, and the bird ID books :)

it really is exciting when you see a new bird, I think I have become bored with birdwatching lately because I haven't seen anything new.

OK

I know I am sure no one else is as excited about seeing a new bird as I am LOL

but...

tonight

Dh is coming home tonight

whoo hoo!

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

here is the pics

Scanned image  mapboys school pic


Scanned image Mapboys class picture

school photo rant

sorry I have to rant
from the web site of the photography place that did the boy's school pics

Q: What will my child's pictures look like?

Unlike most school pictures, our unique portraits are taken outdoors, allowing for a natural, softly focused background. The outdoor setting also helps the students to relax, creating a portrait parents are proud to display. Please read your upcoming Portrait Day Notice for specific information about possible weather delays. If necessary, photos may be taken indoors with a neutral backdrop.



OK does it say in there that the person who chooses the spot does not understand that you should not sit the kids with the sun behind them? I mean the class pic is so pathetic you can't even see the kids faces


plus my kid has transition lenses and so we got a shot of him in sunglasses WOW how wonderful


remind me not to order them next year sheesh!


oh yeah the best thing about it is the little note that came in the package


ROFL


picture retake day is November 17


let me guess that they didn't have any kids who needed a retake SINCE WE DIDN'T HEAR ABOUT IT TIL TODAY! and a quick look at the calendar will tell you that today is November 18th I had to check twice!




*sigh*


ok I am still having a good day just a splattered bug on the windshield of my life ROFL

yeah I like quoting Garfield :)



yesterday ...what a day!

dropped the boy off at school, and noticed an idiot light on
was rushing to get Messy home to put her on the bus so I thought "I'll check that out when I get home"

Nope what the light was saying is that my car was overheating

so by continuing on I caused a back up of pressure, which caused a piece of the radiator to blow out and spray coolant all over my engine, which meant the belts slipped so the car wasn't getting any juice from the battery. so when I put my foot on the break to let the guy merge in front of me the car stalled out and died right there, in the middle of the highway.


when the tow truck came, they couldn't tow us because I had two kids in the car and he said he wasn't authorized to transport children
the care van came and said "I'm not authorized to transport children" but he and I convinced the tow truck guy that it was probably safer for the kids to get off the highway, and they pushed my car to the breakdown lane. WHEW! I tell you it was by the Grace of God that we are all here today!


waiting for the state police...one came...nope he isn't going to transport kids either, but another will. the next statie got out of hsi car and shook his head wildly at me "no way! I am not authorized to transport children" sheesh he seemed angry with me, and what is the deal with them saying the same thing? what are they reading from the same script? the the cop says "isn't there someone you could call" yeah sure dude I haven't thought of that<-----that was sarcasm who can help me? remember DH is 12 hours away, so it has to be someone else who isn't taking their own kids to school, and can fit two kids in their car *sigh* got my friend Shaine after she got home, she came and got us, and she drove us to the garage, and then to the second garage because when I talked to DH on the phone he said he wanted them to tow it to our regular place...I didnt like it but I paid for them to tow it from one garage to another.

anywayto make a long story short, yeah I know it isn't short, we got the car fixed
and we paid a lot of money.


so the sunny side of the story :)

the damage was not as bad as it could have been
the police man told me about an expired sticker instead of giving me a ticket for it
I got to have the most delicious tomato soup for lunch I love Panara!
my autistic daughter did not FREAK out when things didn't go on her schedule she handled it AWESOME!
of any day for the car to break down Monday is it because Mapboy goes to the after school homework help thingy on Mondays so I didn't have to pick him up until 6:30 which was perfect timing.
I got to see my good friend and have lunch with her :)

I learned a valuable lesson about idiot lights as my garage guy said "the idiot lights don't work if you are such an idiot you don't listen to them" ROFL
I am so glad this didn't happen when my cell phone was not working

now I am off to get a new sticker before my good luck runs out :)

hope you all have a nice day

Sunday, November 16, 2008

a quick note to my mom

this morning I have a deeper understanding of my mom and her life

I've quoted her about 7 times and I haven't felt like that was bad once LOL
I bet she is smiling down on me

Mom,

you were right, I do understand things better Now that I have kids of my own, and
heck anything they have done is nothing compared to some of the crap I did, remember when I jumped rope on your station wagon? Heck when I was MB's age I was sneaking cigarettes in the back yard!! Please I can take a clogged toilet anytime!


So I'm sorry for the bad things I've said about your parenting, and thanks for all the love

M-A

now that that is out of the way


we are all staying home from church because of colds and sneezing and sniffles, but we need to go to the store because we need bread and milk

boy still has a boatload of homework


mommy is going to jump in the shower

Saturday, November 15, 2008

finding the good

good I bought a trash can today

I wanted to get it at the going out of bussiness sale at L&T
but I went a few days ago and they were gone

Today I had a 10 giftcard thingy for Kohls and it's int he same shopping center as L&T and so I popped in and they had the trash can I wanted :)

went to Kohl's and decided that instead of buying fancy dresses for the girls for the family Christmas party, I got them matching pink leggings and matching tops with Gingerbread cookies on them I feel smart because these clothes can be worn anytime right? and now the girls can play all they want with the cousins right?

The boy needs shoes but...he is into Mens sizes so it's hard to find affordable shoes that the kid likes KWIM? boy the prices go up when they get into adult sizes huh? no fighting on his part about wanting 300 dollar sneakers YAY!


Made Chicken soup with rice for dinner and read the story a zillion times because it's one of my FAVES :)


Good Good Good

no negative talk about highlighters on refrigerators, or kids with homework, and ADHD, or jumping on couches and throwing toys down the stairs to make Mom 's hair turn gray

nope no negtives AT ALL

Life is good

:)

Now I am off to put together food donatiosn that the kids are doing for Sunday school :)

Tomorrow will be even better :)

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

awe you can't look at this without smiling

OMgosh is it all sneaking up on me?

my kid is going to be ten in three weeks


NO I did not say that wrong!!

three freaking weeks!!!!

TEN YEARS OLD!!!

then shortly after that Messy will turn SIX!


and then Moo will turn THREE!!

ugh

I do this every year, I just chill out in October, then in November I'm hanging out and thinking about Thanksgiving and then WHAM!!! all of the sudden I am hit with the craziness.

I will not go crazy this year


actually is there any time of the year that isn't crazy?

maybe life is just crazy and I should stop waiting for the craziness to clear up, and just enjoy the chaos LOL

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Not a day to honor animal doctors

please teach the kiddos what Veterans Day really means


yes it's my pet peeve but I wont yak too much about it this year

My boy knows what it means
My girl doenst seem to have the ability to understand the concept
the baby is too young even though she isn't a baby anymore *sniff*

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So per drs suggestion we are skipping his medication on weekends and days off
observe

my conclusion is

he really does need the meds

it does really help him

*sigh*

Monday, November 10, 2008

a moo funny

a friend has been visiting for a few days, can I say it is good to finally get some time to sit wiht a friend who is over 10 years old :)

what did my Moo do?

we were in the kitchen having tea

she was up in her room playing and as usual took her shirt off

came down stairs and said "wook at my nipples day are small, but you have big nipples and mommy has big nipples"

ROFL

yikes

I don't even know how she knows the word nipple

what's up with that?


I'm glad she didn't say that to the lady who visits from the school LOL

Friday, November 7, 2008

OMGosh I just love these kids so much!

boy can they trash their rooms like rocks stars

what is up with that?

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Sorry I've been neglecting my blog

seriously I was so busy AND every time I went on the computer I was playing that stupid Hatchery game on facebook LOL

anyway Dh is away for a few weeks

and
I am not happy about it

this morning I pulled into the driveway from Dropping boy off and school and up pulls the bus to take girl to school

sheesh I didn't even have time to wash her face

luckily braiding her hair is on her morning board so it was done but wow that was cutting it close :(

had big battles with Mapboy last night over homework

what can you do?

in the end he finished it all and I made him do half of the homework that is due for Friday

he thinks I am the meanest ever

maybe I am

I'm trying to stay positive

new president, new government

change and all

but my self esteem is really lacking right now
I got a nasty email from someone who I thought was a friend
it was about politics what else? well and religion
another person who thinks they are such a great Christian as to judge weather or not I am Christian enough

it's all very depressing


so i will just cut out and go off tot he laundromat

yes my washer is still broken

yes I know I should just take care of it myself instead of waiting for DH

*sigh*

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

I am so happy

We started a new story board for Messy thsi morning
new morning routine

it is perfect!

I just wish i had remembered to put in "take medicine" but that is no biggie

instead of rushing around we actually had time to color before he bus came

beautiful morning


Do you know anything about artificial ponds?

Last year Mapboy and I created a little artificial pond...yeah it started out as a bird bath, but it was actually cheaper to get the little pond kit so we did it

anyway last year I left it all winter and in the spring it was DISGUSTING and I vowed to empty it out before winter this year

So I went to do it but

started taking out the water (it's small only 35 gallons

but as I got down I found a frog
upon investigation we found 4 frogs hibernating in the bottom of the pond

ok change of plans I don't want to kill the frogs so I added some water back in it and replaced the filter and turned on the pump


but what am I going to do?

keep the pond filter running all winter? what will happen when it freezes?
should i turn off the filter?

will the frogs be OK?

*sigh*

Monday, October 27, 2008

Sad news

In regards to Julian King the Missing boy


They found the SUV and the body of a child inside

:(