Friday, December 5, 2008

Don't worry be happy!

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Dec 5, 12:34 AM EST

Good cheer may spread itself, a study suggests

By MARIA CHENG
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LONDON (AP) -- When you're smiling, the whole world really does smile with you.

A paper being published Friday in a British medical journal concludes that happiness is contagious - and that people pass on their good cheer even to total strangers.

American researchers who tracked more than 4,700 people in Framingham, Mass., as part of a 20-year heart study also found the transferred happiness is good for up to a year.

"Happiness is like a stampede," said Nicholas Christakis, a professor in Harvard University's sociology department and co-author of the study. "Whether you're happy depends not just on your own actions and behaviors and thoughts, but on those of people you don't even know."

While the study is another sign of the power of social networks, it ran through 2003, just before the rise of social networking Web sites like Friendster, MySpace and Facebook. Christakis couldn't say for sure whether the effect works online.

"This type of technology enhances your contact with friends, so it should support the kind of emotional contagion we observed," he said.

Christakis and co-author James Fowler, of the University of California in San Diego, are old hands at studying social networks. They previously found that obesity and smoking habits spread socially as well.

For this study, published in the British journal BMJ, they examined questionnaires that asked people to measure their happiness. They found distinct happy and unhappy clusters significantly bigger than would be expected by chance.

Happy people tended to be at the center of social networks and had many friends who were also happy. Having friends or siblings nearby increased people's chances of being upbeat. Happiness spread outward by three degrees, to the friends of friends of friends.

Happy spouses helped, too, but not as much as happy friends of the same gender. Experts think people, particularly woman, take emotional cues from people who look like them.

Christakis and Fowler estimate that each happy friend boosts your own chances of being happy by 9 percent. Having grumpy friends decreases it by about 7 percent.

But it also turns out misery don't love company: Happiness seemed to spread more consistently than unhappiness. But that doesn't mean you should drop your gloomy friends.

"Every friend increases the probability that you're at the center of a network, which means you are more eligible to get a wave of happiness," Fowler said.

Being happy also brings other benefits, including a protective effect on your immune system so you produce fewer stress hormones, said Andrew Steptoe, a psychology professor at University College London who was not involved with the study.

But you shouldn't assume you can make yourself happy just by making the right friends.

"To say you can manipulate who your friends are to make yourself happier would be going too far," said Stanley Wasserman, an Indiana University statistician who studies social networks.

The study was only conducted in a single community, so it would take more research to confirm its findings. But in a time of economic gloom, it also suggested some heartening news about money and happiness.

According to the research, an extra chunk of money increases your odds of being happy only marginally - notably less than the odds of being happier if you have a happy friend.

"You can save your money," Christakis said. "Being around happy people is better."


Sooooo
Messy says she wants you to be happy!


Thursday, December 4, 2008

A Moo funny

sitting in the doctors office for Mapboy, who has strep by the way, she noticed a poster on the wall, it was a poster explaining what Asthma is and it had a picture of what lungs look like with various Asthma related issues. she pointed to it and said " mommy what's that!" so I told her that that is a picture of what lungs look like, I placed my hands on her chest and told her to breath deep, and when she did I told her that her lungs were like a balloon in her chest and they take in and let out the air when she breaths she sat for a few minutes looking at the poster, then she looked over at me and put her hand on my chest and said "wow mommy you have two weally weally big ones!" ROFL I almost fell off the chair :)

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Ten years old, huh? A decade. Double digits. The big one-O.

Happy birthday Map Boy


now for updat4es

IEP went well

Messy is doing ok academically
she is really struggling in other areas
she does well with other kids socially making friends, something we worried about with her, but her biggest problem is sitting still for more than ten minutes

she will disrupt the class to get up, or yell or just be silly because she can't stand having to sit still when it isn't all about her KWIM?

she also has trouble seeing people in unexpected places. Like seeing mom at school, a classmate at the store, or her autism specialist at school, the specialist sees her one hour a week at home, and one hour a week at school.

her other biggest problem is accepting change in her schedule


speaking of, today is a half day so we are waiting for her bus to drop her off...I hope it went well :(


Today is Mapboy's 10th birthday he is a decade, he is also sick as a dog LOL poor kiddo at his school one of the teachers makes balloon hats for kids on their birthday, he says it's no big deal, but I think secretly he was looking forward to getting the balloon hat :) He wants his own facebook account ...I told him it would be silly for me to give him his own facebook account since he can't use it until he is 14 ROFL do you believe that some of his friends have facebook accounts? middle school is crazy.

He got his computer back in his room, with some new nifty unhackable nanny type software on it :) not sure if I told you all that he used to have it in his room, but he went and hacked the software so he could sneak on the computer in the middle of the night...DH has convinced me that he will not be able to hack this one.

I have a friend Jo who has been living out of state FOREVER and is moving her family back here, it's nice to see her now and again :)

I am going to break out my camera

and break out of this silly depression I've been having

so look for more pictures soon :)

thanks for reading