IEP?

So I got a phone call the other day telling me that the boy's meeting has been schedules for May 13th and was that a good time.
I said ok and today I got a call from the psychologist
"Is he on Medications?"
"Does he receive therapy?"
she said "I'll send this to the school and they will come up with a date for the meeting" I told her the day was set for May 13th and she said "nice of them to let me know "

HUH?

these are surely not the nice and helpful people who were on Curly's team

Now I am scared.
Now I understand all the chatter I have heard from everywhere about how dreadful IEPs are

I swear Curly's IEP was a pleasant picnic! no kidding they sent me an invitation with a notice of everyone that would be there, and I had a ton of time to prepare
this is different. they don't even know what they are doing.

So when I went to go check the mail there was a letter form the school, I thought maybe that would be more info

no it's the forms to fill out for next year

I still do not know what we are going to do.

:(
should he stay in the charter school? should We put him in the public?

repeat the fifth grade, or advance to the sixth?

*sigh*